Personality Conflicts #2 - The Raccoon


Welcome back to our personality, conflict series, I'm Mindy turner with the curry county cooperative extension service, your family and consumer science agent for this month's video series, we're talking a little about some different personality types, and maybe some communication tips on how you can more effectively communicate with people who maybe think just a little different from you so let's, jump, right in last time we talked about the rooster. And that perspective is a huge thing for how. We choose to communicate with other people. We have our preferences for how we like to do things. And of course, that perspective we bring to every situation, the things we've been through and dealt with possibly somebody's hurt our feelings already.

And so how we approach it is going to definitely be affected by how we're coming at it from that perspective. So just as a little reminder, you can see in the middle of this page. We've got a little, uh, a little graphic with an old very old, uh, optical illusion. And so when you look at this there's two, very distinctive things in this picture, when I look the first thing I always see is a person like in the big parka with the fur around it and stuff like their kind of walking into possibly a cave or a dark doorway. But if you kind of flip it tilts your head, a little squint, your eyes, look from the other side, you'll see like a totem. So it looks like the head possibly on like what you would see on a totem pole or a statue. So this is one of those things that.

Different people will see different things, and they'll see the different one first, and some people never see them. Both they don't get past the one thing that they already see and that's a great analogy. When we talk about how we communicate, sometimes it's hard for us to get past our own perspective, what we see and what we believe to see it from somebody else's angle and that's where understanding and talking about personality types, I also mentioned last time, there are all types of assessments and. Testing and things you can do to get in-depth personality training and review and how you fit, and what your preferences are possibly what career fields you should go into it'll, tell you wherever you fall for the preferences, most of these skills that we talk about for communication can be taught. There are things that can be learned. We can learn how to get along with others and have positive communication within our families, within the groups and organizations. We work with.

Furthermore, we just have to open our. Mind a little to be understanding of other people. So today, we're going to move from the rooster to the raccoon. So when we talk about the raccoon, what are we thinking? Well, raccoons are our risk. Takers.

They're, outgoing they're fun, loving they motivate others because they're excited about what's going on. There are networkers, they know everybody knows who they are. They like to develop people and work with people. And they want to see you succeed and thrive in what you're doing, because they. Are so excited about what's going on, they can sometimes be easily sidetracked away from that ultimate goal because there's so much going on, and they're so excited, and they're. So optimistic about everything that's going on around them. Raccoons tend to be very visionary.

They end up a lot of times in a leadership role because again, they're outgoing their fun-loving. Everybody likes them, but they usually have a vision, a great vision, they're going to need to bring in some of those detail people. Because they're really not detailed people so to achieve that vision, they may need some help in following those steps, and they may sometimes be forgetful, because they do have so much going on they're, not a lot of times going to sit down and make a list or make notes on what they need to go back and handle they're going to keep a lot of that in their head. And so it's easy for that to kind of get overwritten and just forget things, but they're, very talkative. So typically kind of know where. They are and what they're thinking because they're telling you and in that, and because they do, that's kind of their personality, they make friends easily, they know who you are. They want to support you and work with you, but they may not can get your name out right?

Then, even though it's kind on the tip of their tongue. They've got so much going on in there that it may not come out exactly right. So again, just as we mentioned with the rooster, we want to look at things and go. Oh, well, that's, just. Negative and that's, the bad things and things we don't want to think about when we reframe it to start thinking about, you know, there's some really positive things to working with someone who has this raccoon personality type over my tenure in the positions I've held and youth development. Most of your teenagers are going to fall into this category now, they're going to have some probably their core at their core. They've got these values and preferences that fall into some other.

Categories, but just for where they are in that growing, and the maturing part of being a teenager, they're going to fall into a lot of this think about the risk-taking, the wanting to be with others, wanting to network and be around other people and make a lot of friends, um and being forgetful about what's going on. They may just fall into this, and so some of them outgrow it. Some people never do. And again, we need to remember to see the blessings in that, because they make things fun.

They make. Things exciting and they keep your group moving forward. Okay. So just a quick reminder.

When you look at things going on around, you know, the literary things that go on around us or the artistic things in the world. The books you read the movies you watch television shows. Most of those things are gonna focus back on a core group, that's going to have four maybe a few more maybe of one main person, but then they're, surrounded by the friends, or the family members who are going to exhibit things from these. Different personality types that just goes to show you, and it's, a great reminder of entertainment, uh, imitating life to show us that we need these different personality types to be together to work together to create a dynamic and have that be a positive thing.

So of course, the raccoon you're going to see in those shows is they're going to be the fun. Once they're going to be the outgoing one they're going to be, um, probably in some ways driving the other characters crazy. So how do you communicate with a raccoon.

And right now, you've already gone. You've thought of a handful of people that you know fit into this category, maybe you're one of them, maybe you're, not. But how do you wrangle a bunch of raccoons or one or two? Because one or two can seem like a lot because they're outgoing and talkative, and they're busy and into everything? So when we get ready to communicate with someone who falls into this category, first, you need to talk, not just listen it's, really easy to just sit back and let them go. But.

If you really want to have communication is a two-way thing. And so you want to be able to talk and interact with them that's, what they're looking for is interaction. So if you are assigning projects, or you're, the one in charge of that committee, or that group, you're going to want to give them a function and a job that involves teamwork, somehow, they can work together and be part of something with someone else, but you're also probably going to need to check in on the details. Because as we said, They're visionary they're already, looking 10 steps out. They just don't really see what those steps are in between, so you're going to need to check in on some of those details to make sure that everyone feels successful at the end and then provide feedback, you know, they need to know how did that go? How did that work that's? How they learn again, they're growing they're, maturing if we're talking about a teenager, but even as adults sometimes we're growing and maturing to show interest in what.

They're doing, they want to know that you're interested in what they have going on and not just correcting them or giving them some other, um task or job that you think they need to be doing, and then it's important. When we talk about raccoons, you know, be aware of those verbal attacks because it's easy. They do have so much going on they're so excited. They may tend to over commit, which again, checking in on the details can be very helpful in keeping that from happening. But so they might get.

Overwhelmed, and if they feel like they're being pressured, then they could snap at you, and that initial reaction a lot of times is to just snap back so being aware that those verbal attacks can happen can be in there, and something that could cause a conflict or an issue is an significant piece of maintaining that positive communication. So that's sums up we've talked about the rooster. We've talked about the raccoon. We've got two more to go. So I hope you'll come back here next time until then you can. Log on to our website curryextension.nmsu.edu, if you click on family health and wellness, then you'll have the opportunity to sign up for our newsletter.

You can request hard copy or email, or you can submit a question for our extension staff, again, I'm Mindy turner with the curry county cooperative extension service. And this has been personality conflicts. Number two, the raccoon, I will see you here. Next time you.

Dated : 09-May-2022

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